If ‘Nothing is Written in Stone’ then what is reality? What is a belief? Are beliefs real if they can change from one moment to the next? Where do beliefs come from? This week I found myself questioning much of what I profess to believe in.
Am I having an existential or spiritual crisis? I don’t think so.
Maybe when we find ourselves questioning our beliefs it is because we are ready to move into a new, more fulfilling reality. Right now, for me, this means embracing the message that ‘Nothing is Written in Stone’ therefore I get to change what isn’t working in this moment or this lifetime.
What brought up this soul searching for me (and do we really need to search for our soul – isn’t it always present?)? I sometimes choose who to share some of my beliefs with. I sometimes hide behind the mask of intellect and acceptable logic when I fear my beliefs will be rejected or, worse, ridiculed.
Both my beliefs and reality are made up by me. So how can either be real? Maybe it doesn’t matter. Then what does matter? That too is individually made up. What matters to me, matters to me and that should be enough for me. What matters to you, matters to you and shouldn’t that be enough to create intentions that move you in that direction?
My plan is to to strengthen a way of being in the world that has guided me in the past. Sometimes this way of being feels naive, silly or looked down upon (because that is how others have labeled it). Yet when I live from this place I am happy and thrive. I am happiest when I accept my belief that I, and you, create the reality we perceive. This is not a new or unique perspective, but it is one not universally accepted in many of the circles I travel in. Not everyone, including some friends and family, will easily accept this way of being might be difficult for me, but pretending it doesn’t matter to me is not longer acceptable. I intend to widen the circle I travel in to include more people who choose this reality.
As I write this I am reminded that every thought, action and experience is secondary to either fear or love. Fear and love are like muscles, the more you exercise either, the stronger it becomes. When I sense I am having a thought, making a decision, commenting or taking an action with fear as my motivating source, I will have compassion for myself and wait for self-love to kick in to change the direction of that thought, decision, comment or action.
Jan facilitates national workshops for therapists and life coaches. She presents at conferences on topics related to holistic psychology and living your dreams.
